Friday, August 29, 2025

Perkahwinan ialah ibadah paling panjang dan anak² ialah amanah.


 So...taylor swift just got engaged after two years with travis.

Fans starts looking for joe alwyn's reaction.

Obviously, taylor & joe is a true love story, but as a Sagittarius, taylor realizes that cinta tak bayar bil an analogy describing that just love is not enough. To have a long term relationship there's got to be an element of companionship which require : teamwork and all that comes along with it i.e organic solidarity instead of mechanical solidarity. (A sociology term explaining cohesion)

In simple terms, taylor married her fan ; travis. But her true love & romance experiences may always be with joe.

Anyway on the other side of the world, specifically close to home in Malaysia. We have the aesthetic doctor who cheats on his wife with someone else's wife. Happens to have the same zodiac as travis.

Wife forgives him tho' which i think is really smart because at this point she does not need a husband, she needs to withhold the financial gain from the marriage especially with kids, leaving a partner richer than you isn't exactly a smart move UNLESS he's spiralling down. As of now, he is suspended from work. Personally if it comes down to that, i would divorce him. That's an indicator he's bringing negative energy into the household.

Reminds me of a tiktok post saying, "a man's true color only emerges after marriage"

It's giving stucked hopeless mindset. For me, if that happens. You can still walk away. Divorce him.

But, with one condition, makes sure that he actually lied. And not because he is not up to your expectations.

Sometimes, we sabotage ourselves by having high hopes for people.

So. If travis and taylor didn't last, well. Thats that.

As a woman i say this, love yourself. A man will love you to death when they know you can walk away easily. So always be ready to walk away, anytime.

As a mother, have a loving relationship with our children, so we don't have to dig out their graves just to prove their cause of death.



Monday, August 4, 2025

'Free' does not mean 'Freedom'

Free can be, worthless. Buy 1 free 1 usually indicating items that are almost approaching or perhaps already reached its expiry date meaning...useless. No quality, stale or even broken.

Free can be zero, empty, no meaning, no value, nothing. As in 'free your mind' releasing it from any grip of thoughts, idea, meaning...which is not ideal because to stay rooted to our cause or purpose or destiny...we need to be 'Grounded' and that is the opposite of 'free'. An empty mind can be futile, as an analogy it would be like drifting in a washdown of tsunami but not realizing it and worst when we see others getting washdown too we regard them more as an accessories like branches or debris or rubbish rather than human being like us and we're still not worried and not Aware that we actually dying as the water kept rushing through on the second wave and caused a fatal crash ahead or drowning by surge. An empty mind does not even realize the number of lesson waiting to be learnt. A free mind passing through life never aware of the true meaning of life.

Free can be escapism from reality.

Free can be reckless. No proper planning towards spending in an economical context.

Free can be irresponsibility. 'Don't know, don't care' attitude.

Free can be lack of intimacy or honest connection. Which is the opposite of commitment in relationship context.

Free can be apathy. Not related or relevant to anyone or sentiments.

Free can be dormancy. As in making space for something to happen, just waiting for the next big thing. No purpose.


(Free)
(Freedom)


But Freedom....

Freedom is the relief from unhingedness.

Freedom is the graduation day after a 5 year long studies.

Freedom is the release from labels, perspective, interpretation, symbols, trauma, blueprints. Freedom is the release from the past, the future.

Freedom is self-power. 

Freedom is gained through decision and action plan.

Freedom is a Privilege.

Freedom is the openness untuk mengHADAPI ujian tanpa lari, pujuk(elak), membeku atau melawan. 

Freedom is like a Phoenix raising from the ashes after completely burnt. 

Freedom is sitting on a pedestal where there is no one else but you. 

Freedom is success at its core, in essence.